It’s time we had a chat! I recently spent a weekend retreat with a group of amazing, talented, beautiful, grounded women. There was so much positivity and love and sharing and acceptance in this group that I felt all warm and fuzzy for weeks afterwards.
Imagine my surprise, tho, when each time we sat down to share a meal together, these confident and beautiful women joined the chorus of guilt eating.
“Oh, maybe I’ll have half a cookie, I didn’t have much lunch and I’ll go for a walk this afternoon”
“I never have desserts but I’m on holidays so it doesn’t count”
“This is a no calorie zone, right?!?”
Can you hear yourself saying these words?
These conversations are so normalized that I doubt these women even realized what they were doing or that they were supporting each other in doing it. And it made me a bit sad. The interesting thing is that the comment or apology never ever stopped them from eating the “sinful” cookie. They ate it with just that little bit of bitter guilt mixed in.
So to that I say, what if you just ate the flippin’ cookie/cake/donut?!? Let your body enjoy this beautiful and delicious indulgence rather than stirring up feelings of guilt and suffering. Celebrate the ingredients and love that were put into creating this decadent dessert or meal just for you. Change the mindset of “good” and “bad” that doesn’t’ actually change what you eat but puts judgement and negativity on your body just for good measure.
You are allowed to eat and ENJOY whatever you choose to put in your mouth! No apologies! No guilt!
And you are BEAUTIFUL – today and every day!